Over the years as I’ve become more deeply rooted in the birth worker space, one of the things I hear often from new mamas is that they weren’t told how raw and emotional the immediate postpartum period is. They share with me how they were showered with beautiful celebrations and encouraged to attend informative classes on breastfeeding, childbirth, and newborn care.
All of which focused on the baby’s well-being but never addressed the fact that she had needs as well. They explain to me that they wish there was some place or someone who had shared with them prenatally how to mentally process this transition from maiden to mother, carefully heal their post-birth body, and mindfully create a safe space in their home, free from peering eyes and judgment.
Each time I step into the home of a new mother I’m reminded of just how rocky these early days of motherhood can be. These instances are the times in which mothers begin to whisper to me their first signs of self-doubt, grapple with feeding their baby, and fight feelings of loneliness and isolation, though there may be a revolving door of visitors. I remind them that this is very common and that they aren’t alone. Not only am I there to provide them with support but that we will begin to build a tribe around them that will make their mother-birth one that rests in confidence and security.
As I begin to offer suggestions and a wellness plan, there are three key areas that I always speak to. They are, the Mind, which focuses on addressing internal struggles, the Body, which focuses on incorporating gentle healing practices that allow my mamas to eventually return to doing the things she loved prenatally, and Abode, which focuses on making the home a place of refuge and comfort.
As a pregnancy mentor and Lactation coach I’ve spent the last six years sitting at the bedside of women who’ve just given birth in New York, Puerto Rico, and Guam. During this time I’ve discovered unique ways in which to nurture women that help to incorporate a sense of calm in these three areas. I’ve shared them below.
I trust that as a mama reads through these Mind, Body, and Abode tips there will be ones that naturally call out to her and resonate with how she’d like her postpartum experience to be. The most important of all though is for a woman to listen to her Mother Wisdom. This is the small voice that speaks within and directs her on her path. It takes time to hone but will give the most confidence and peace in how she navigates her motherhood journey.
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