I’m so happy your eyes landed on our Expectful Contributor page.
My name is Anna. I’m Expectful’s Editorial Lead and Community Guide. I’m also a new mom and a long time lover of writing and the power of stories.
Which leads me to an important question for you…
Do you believe in the power of your story?
If yes, you’re in the right place.
Since I began working for Expectful, my writing style has changed completely. And this happened when I noticed one simple thing: I don’t have to tell people what they should do, I just have to share what I did.
For a long time, I thought the way I could influence and help people was by giving them advice and answers. But through my personal and professional growth I’ve learned that I don’t have the answers, nor does anyone else.
What I do have is my own story.
And within my own story is my own truth, feelings and experiences.
And because I am human and you are human, we feel a lot of the same things. We have a lot of the same thoughts, same questions and similar curiosities.
Meaning that when I start to tell you something that happened to me, how I felt about it, how I dealt with it and how I think about it now, chances are you can connect with it on some level.
Here’s an example of what I mean…
Recently, my daughter Annabell started to learn how to walk. She’s been not so cautiously walding all over my apartment. Yesterday, when I had my head down answering emails, I heard a big thud. When I looked up I saw her lying on the ground doing what I call, the silent cry, which means the pain was so bad that she couldn’t even make a noise at first.
I immediately ran over and picked her up. The moment my hands wrapped around her I thought, I shouldn’t be picking her up, this is a bad habit to create everytime she falls, but then I thought “F-it”, she’s upset, so I scooped in my arms.
As I soothed her, I noticed a huge bruise starting to take shape on her cheek. Since my head was down when she fell I didn’t know she had whacked her face on the side of the T.V. stand.
I felt terrible, and I immediately thought, you are such a bad parent. And of course with the bruise being right on her face I thought, what will people think? Or even worse, what if someone thinks I hit her?
These thoughts flooded my brain within the span of one minute. That’s right, in a single minute my daughter fell and I convinced myself that I was terrible parent because of it.
But then just as she started to feel the pain go away, I started to notice my negative thoughts dissipating. Then I realized, I’m not a bad parent. I show up for my daughter everyday, I love her unconditionally and I do the best I can.
If you’re a parent I’m going to take a guess that you’ve had a similar experience.
Maybe it wasn’t when your child fell, but I’m sure something has happened over the course of your parenthood journey where you thought you weren’t a great parent.
Even if you’re not a parent, I’m sure you’ve had moments where you’ve felt like you weren’t enough. And that’s a lot of what this story is about.
See what I’m saying? Just by writing down my story you probably heard your own. It’s a powerful thing, and one that can help a lot of people without ever giving them one bit of advice.
This is what Expectful writers do. They make a connection by sharing their journey in a vulnerable, simple and conversational way.
So if this sounds like something that resonates with you, great! But, don’t start writing just yet, there’s one more thing we need to chat about.
Throughout Expectful’s lifespan I’ve learned a few specific things that work and don’t work for our blog, and I’ve put them into a list called How To Get Published On Expectful. This is an easy checklist for you to read before submitting.
How To Published On Expectful
- Everything must be written as if you’re speaking to a good friend that’s sitting right in front of you.
- Try to avoid using the word “you” because when it’s used, a generalization often being made. Stick to “I” and “me” as much as possible.
- Always make a point by telling a story in the first person, vs just saying something.
- The goal of our posts are to relate to women on the emotional side of pregnancy and new motherhood. Therefore, any post you write should be emotionally focused, vs giving advice on more practical topics. That said, if you do want to share tips, please do in a storytelling format that connects with our readers. Here is a great example of a recipe that someone created in a really emotionally engaging way.
- We think it’s great to have women that are already interested in wellness read our content, but what gets us really excited is the thought that we can reach people that don’t have this on their radar yet. We want to introduce our ideas to a broader audience than women that already have a similar worldview. Therefore, everything we write should be relatable to not just the women in the wellness community, but also to those outside of it (think of a woman that doesn’t already go to yoga classes, look for organic food, etc). With this said, please avoid any topics that speak about religion or have a new age feel.
- Be vulnerable, talk honestly about your feelings.
- We do not take a stance on topics such as natural birth vs c-section or epidural, or breastfeeding or formula feeding, please don’t write anything for us that does.
- The target audience we’re trying to reach is pregnant women and new moms. Please write for them, and if possible write content that helps support both demographics.
- Expectful is a place that makes people feel understood. Be kind and relate to women in your post. Make them feel good by being honest about your own struggles.
To submit a post email firstname.lastname@example.org. If your submission is approved, you’ll hear back from us within 14-days. We can’t wait to hear from you.